Monday, 25 January 2016

Is Self Talk Healthy?

Around age five, most people begin "self-talk" -- literally, they start talking to themselves either out loud or silently. 

While essential to language development, self-talk is also critical to moral reasoning. 
Sometimes we discourage it in ourselves or children, but we should do the opposite.

So, yes your kids are ok when they "self- talk" and you should encourage them by practicing it yourself too.

Self Talk is a crucial tool for developing emotional intelligence. You need to practice positive self-talk every day, just as much as you would need to brush your teeth every day!

Kids will practice a positive -self-talk, and if you hear them speaking otherwise about themselves it means that you urgently need to have a talk with them, to see if they are just copying anyone or they are genuinely thinking this about themselves. 

As a parent, you need to set the example, so you need to be very careful how you refer to yourself.

And you know what: positive self-talk can only serve you too!

Here are a few things self-talk can do for you:
  1. Give yourself a shout out. Even if no one else seems to be appreciating you at the moment, compliment yourself on the way you handled a difficult situation, left your comfort zone for a new adventure, or just got through a busy day.
  2. Give yourself a pep talk. We could all use a motivational speaker from time to time, but we don’t always have one handy. Self-talk can help you motivate yourself to achieve a goal at work, in a relationship, or in your personal behavior.
  3. Debate both sides of a difficult decision. Saying your options out loud and elaborating on the pros and cons can help bring the right choice to light, and you might be surprised at the unexpected direction your thoughts take when they’re audible.
  4. Blow off steam. If you’re not the type to confront people who tick you off, talk to yourself about how they bother you or how unfair a situation is. Introverts are especially prone to missing opportunities to assert themselves. Put the “self” back in self-assertion.
  5. Understand you thoughts better.Sometimes we’re sure we think one way, but our psyche tells us differently. Have you ever found yourself crying when you didn’t think anything was wrong? That’s your subconscious letting you know. Invite it to join your conversation to bring you to new levels of self-awareness.
  6. Boost your memory.Research shows that saying the location out loud when you place an object will help you remember where you put it.
  7. Shake off stress and anxiety. Who couldn’t use one more way to get rid of stress? Work it through with a monolog.
You might find difficult every morning to get yourself an actual pep talk, so here is a link that you can follow and every morning al you have to do is only to repeat along and breathe for 2 minutes with Eric Lassard, our positivity expert.
Since two years Eric is sending thousand of people an email at exactly 8 am and gives great pep talk for the present day.
The best part is that you and your family can listen in the way to school, it is not dangerous while driving, /except do not close your eyes just breathe /at breakfast or whatever you are doing around 9 am each mornings! 

and if you want to receive it every  morning directly into your inbox then subscribe at:

So, please share with us your thoughts about self-talk and how you kids use this precious tool.

We are looking forward to hearing from you!

Wishing you an incredible week "talk yourself in" happiness!

Katy Winner
Your Devoted Emotional Intelligence Expert

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